Additional Resources

Books

• Engel, Beverly. Encouragements for the Emotionally Abused Woman: Wisdom and Hope for Women At Any Stage of Emotional Abuse Recovery. Published by Ballantine Books in February 1994; ISBN 044990878X

  Can be useful as a tool for healing especially for those who can or will not seek outside assistance. Gives supportive quotes, stories, affirmations and suggestions to help women through the process of recovery.

• Forward, Susan and D. Frazier. Emotional Blackmail: When the People in Your Life Use Fear, Obligation, and Guilt to Manipulate You. Published by Harper Paperbacks in April 1998; ISBN 0060928972

  Deals primarily with personal and family relationships that involve more subtle forms of bullying in the guise of manipulation and coercion.  Provides tools to break ingrained patterns that can lead to the blackmailing of oneself.

• Harding, Celia. Aggression and Destructiveness: Psychoanalytic Perspectives. Published by Routledge in May 2006; ISBN 1583918841.

  A collection of essays from psychoanalytic professionals that deal with various types of aggression in relationships.  While the first two sections are useful in general, the third section, Destructiveness in Disguise and as Disguise, has essays that provide insight into bullying behaviors and their effects.

• Horn, Sam. Take the Bully by the Horns: Stop Unethical, Uncooperative, or Unpleasant People from Running and Ruining Your Life Published by St. Martin's Griffin in September 2003; ISBN 0312320221

  Short, easy-to-read chapters with lots of aphorisms, quizzes and role playing scenarios to help learn, practice and integrate the skills discussed.  Focus is primarily on personal and family relationships rather than the workplace.

• Randall, Peter. Adult Bullying Published by Routledge in January 1997; ISBN 0415126738

  A straight-forward look at the both the roots of bullying behaviors and their effects in later life from the perspectives of both the bully and the victim.  Focuses on workplace and community situations more than personal relationships.

• Randall, Peter. Bullying in Adulthood: Assessing the Bullies and their Victims. Published by Routledge in November 2001; ISBN 0415236932

  Similar to his other book, "Adult Bullying," but more academic in nature with less focus on how to overcome the problem and more discussion of the origin of it.

• Rigby, Ken. New Perspectives on Bullying. Published by Jessica Kingsley Publishers in February 2002; ISBN 185302872X

  While there are sections of the book that focus on young people, this book takes a more pervasive look at bullying throughout the lifecycle.  Provides chapters on understanding motivations and personalities of both victims and bullies, the effects of bullying and attitudes surrounding the topic.

• Shapiro, Ronald M., M. Jankowski and J. Dale. Bullies, Tyrants, and Impossible People: How to Beat Them Without Joining Them Published by Crown Business in June 2005; ISBN 1400050111

  Takes a look at most interactions as negotiations and breaks down "difficult people" into three categories providing steps and tools to overcome challenges with each type supported by lots of anecdotal evidence and situational examples.  Has information for both the workplace and personal relationships.

Websites

• The APA Help Center has a referral service to help patients find a psychologist. It is available online (http://locator.apahelpcenter.org/index.cfm) or by phone (1-800-964-2000). The APA can only give provider contact information and cannot check on insurance coverage or give testimonials as to the quality of care from individual providers.

• Bully OnLine's Bullying In The Family
  (http://www.bullyonline.org/related/family.htm)

  The main site is run by the UK's National Workplace Bullying Advice Line, but has a section dedicated to issues outside of the workplace.  Includes an explanation and discussion of the "serial bully" and provides additional resources of information on abuse, personality disorders and behaviors concerning bullying of all types.

• Life After Adult Bullying
  (http://www.lifeafteradultbullying.com/)

  Site constructed by a bullying victim in the UK that has bullying information for both personal relationships and the workplace including the creator's personal struggle and recovery methods. Includes worldwide links to additional resources.

• Selfhelp Magazine has put together an extensive list of useful resources both national and local that is available online and covers everything from domestic violence to emotional abuse.

• (http://www.selfhelpmagazine.com/resources/
  dv/dvresour4.html#How_to_Get_Help)

Telephone

• The National Domestic Violence Hotline (1-800-799-SAFE (7233)) is available nationally 24 hours a day in a variety of languages and is staffed by professionals trained to listen, provide support and give referrals and additional information on all types of abuse including emotional abuse and bullying.